What is the antidote to living a life of increasing isolation? We all crave intimacy - to be deeply and truly known, heard and understood. But beyond the mentality of feeling ‘seen’ lies a deeply rooted evolutionary NEED to be touched.
A woman might say, ‘one strike and he’s out’ - their tolerance for bad behaviour is often quite low, perhaps that makes for a woman with ‘high standards.’ Men on the other hand, especially men that are loyal and kind-hearted, will often let their significant other get away with a multitude of second-chances, accumulating over time at their own expense.
Anxiety is the worst, particularly if you consider yourself a perfectly logical person. You KNOW that a lot of those constant worrying thoughts don't make sense, but it’s like the neurotic side of your brain wreaks havoc whilst your logical brain is held hostage. A kind of internal bully, unseen from the outside.
Boys get cheated on, lead on, abused and heartbroken, but are too often villainized in relationship breakups.
Here's something that might help you work through a breakup - if you’ve ever felt stuck on negative spiralling thoughts about your ex after a relationship has ended.
The traditional role of what It means to be man in society has become blurred, and it's coming at a cost to men's mental health. We’ve got buzzwords being thrown around like ‘toxic’ masculinity and the tides of radical feminism cornering guys into conundrums of how to deal with modern manhood.
We often get told to talk. To relate to others. To SHARE our experience. The HARDEST thing about the STRUGGLE OF THE MIND, is that it often doesn’t FEEL shared. It doesn’t FEEL understood.
Guest Post written for charity organisation Mr Perfect on how to support your mates through a Breakup . Click the link below to read more.